This is what you need to write in a wedding card (according to four professional writers)
With wedding season on our doorstep, I’ve been thinking about what takes a card note from good to amazing. It's more about creating a feeling than just the words.
Then I realized that my being a writer probably (ok, definitely) gives me a bit of an unfair advantage when it comes to making a loved-ones laugh, cry, or cry from laughing.
I want everyone to have that moment of pure inspiration when it comes to writing an unforgettable card note. But what do you do if you don’t write for a living or are feeling a bit of writer’s block? Tendr to the rescue!
I’ve enlisted some professional writers from our office at Friends Work Here to share their advice on writing an amazing note in a wedding card. Read on for suggestions (and a few templates) for writing a professional-quality message in each and every wedding card!
Tip #1: Be unique and sincere
“When my husband and I got married ten years ago, one friend gave us the most memorable amount of cash: $333.33. Even without using words, doing something unique like that definitely made their gift stand out from the pack!
Our favorite cards included a personal and sincere message. If you're stumped, try thinking about your shared history and your greatest hope for their future as a couple: "What I've always loved about you two is ___. As you embark on this next adventure together, my wish for you is ___."
Jen Swetzoff, founder (and content maven) at Closeup Content
Tip #2: Keep it lighthearted and upbeat
"A wedding gift must always be accompanied by a sweet note. I try to keep mine lighthearted and upbeat.
I usually start by thanking the couple not only for including me in this special day, but also for always being ___ (e.g. such a supportive force in my life, the most fun late night adventurers, the couple I always want to steal clothes from). If I have a standout memory I can write succinctly, I mention it next. Followed by, 'here’s to many more years of (said standout memory) to come!' I usually conclude with a 'So happy you two found each other’ or a ‘You guys are the best!’."
Tip #3: Pull on all the heartstrings
"Success to me is getting them to tear up, not with sadness, but joy through reflection. If they don't, I hope that my letter inspires them to re-open it years later and relive cherished memories.
Here's how I'd do it: Remind them of who they were years ago before arriving at this point in their life, and through that, show them how much they've grown and how a new chapter is about to unfold. Tell them that it has been a privilege and joy to watch them grow, learn, and become something more. Talk about how gross it is to be adulting and that you'd be happy to be the uncle/aunt if the time comes (and for an hour at most). Above all, be sincere, read the note back to yourself out loud (as if you were giving a toast), and pull on all the heartstrings."
Tip #4: Get personal
"When it comes to cards, it's all about making it personal. Share a memory, like the moment you knew the couple was perfect for each other, or an inside joke that both the bride and groom are in on. Everyone will wish couples a lifetime of happiness and love. The cards that stick with you are specific, funny, and personal and show that you spent just a little extra time and thought on it."
Tara Goodrum, Freelance writer (and Friends Work Here Studio Manager extraordinaire)
What are your tips for writing an awesome card note? What was the most memorable card fro your wedding? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org!