Why I Wish Tendr Was Around When I got Married: Spencer Bagley, Co-Founder of Tendr
One of the most interesting about working for Tendr and telling people what we do is the reactions it elicits. The best one? ‘Man, I wish Tendr had existed when I’d gotten married!’
So, this is the first in a new series exploring that question!
Spencer Bagley is a co-founder of Tendr and designer most of the stuff you see or experience on the site. He’s a proud papa of two girls and, in his ‘spare time’, an aspiring BBQ master.
When Spencer and his wife Melissa got married in 2011, they threw a low-key gathering that was super casual, intimate, and (most importantly) fun.
“It was more like a backyard barbecue than a traditional wedding,” Bagley says. “We rented a big house in Red Hook, NY and invited 75 of our closest friends and family to stay with us. For food we hired a bbq pit-master who drove his rig over and served everything family-style.”
Looking to more to buck trends and stay away from traditions, Spencer and Melissa planned accordingly.
“We opted out of a fancy wedding cake and instead served pies from Four & Twenty Blackbirds,” says Bagley. “The dress code was come as you are, so people showed up in everything from a tux to shorts and t-shirts.”
Even though they bucked trends in the ceremony and celebration, their registry was another story.
“When we registered, it sounded so fun to go on a fantasy shopping spree at some of our preferred retailers,” Bagley says. “But, to be completely honest, a good amount of gifts we received never made it out of the box.”
Fast forward to a few months after the wedding.
“We wanted to buy a new car and make some home upgrades. We wished we’d had some extra savings to make our dream a reality.”
More than just wishing there had been a little wedding gift money for these upgrades, Bagley says he really wishes Tendr had existed when he was going to more weddings and giving gifts.
“There's nothing more frustrating than going to a friend’s registry and the cool stuff is accounted for,” he says. “I can’t tell you how many times I bought kitchen bowls and stuff I knew was never going to get used.”
For events where he’d decided to give money, it was also an annoying process.
“It was a pain to find a decently designed card. Then, on the day of the event, it was always awkward to hand my friend an envelope in the midst of all the craziness of the celebration.”
According to Bagley, even though most people prefer cash gifts for their wedding, "there’s still some social stigma around putting that wish out there.”
Part of what makes Tendr special, he says, is that couples create a personalized page together and share those dreams for their future together with their friends and family.
“Also, when you receive cash the old-fashioned way, you and your partner have to spend hours tracking down and listing who gave how much,” he says.
“Writing thank you cards is one of the most dreaded post-wedding tasks because it's so tedious. With Tendr, that's all taken care of.”
Bagley says that now that Tendr is out in the world, what’s keeping him motivated to improve and perfect the service is seeing how people are using it “to make their dreams a reality.”
“For some,” he says, “that means going on the adventure of a lifetime. For others, it means being given the opportunity to buy their first home.”
But, the most memorable story?
“There's a couple who are using Tendr to fund the adoption process for a child to make their family whole. When I read the note on their page it brought a tear to my eye,” says Bagley.
“Tendr is more than giving money. It’s enabling people to make their dreams a reality and I’m super honored to contribute to that.”
To see more of Spencer's wicked-cool wedding invitations, click here.